"My personal mission statement is to grow and develop people to their full potential. Starting with myself. I work hard to live it so I can give it."
Executive, Nurse, Wife, Mother, Coach, Mentor, Volunteer
Does this sound familiar? It can be overwhelming wear so many hats. We are constantly told to practice self-care but what if you don’t know what that is for you anymore? What if you never knew? I work with clients on soul-care. It's awakening that inner knowing that you've been shushing for way too long. Coaching isn't about telling you what to do. You already know the answers to your problems. I just help you quiet the noise around you. Coaching can help you gain clarity by having a non-judgmental sounding board to help you get out of your own way.
I was living life without intention and alignment to who I really am. I spent decades checking off all of the life boxes our culture has sold us, but our culture lied to me.
All these things didn't make me happy like I was told they would. I was coming home from work exhausted and overwhelmed. Thinking of what to make for dinner every night is a special kind of hell, and my only coping mechanism to quiet the overwhelm was opening a bottle of wine. I'd have a glass while cooking dinner and then another glass while we ate. Then another glass or two after the kids were in bed. It felt normal since all of my friends and colleagues were doing this too. But, I felt groggy, ashamed, lifeless. I felt like a zombie walking around in real life. Needless, to say, not the life craved and I felt like a victim to my circumstance. "This is just what it's like to be a working mom" was my belief system.
I was driving to work one day thinking, "What if I just got into a minor car accident. One that would put me in the hospital, but not do permanent damage. Maybe I could finally get someone to take care of me." Yikes. When my 5-year old self was playing with her dolls, she never had a scenario where this was the story line. where Barbie was a stressed out, wine drinking mom of 2, that snapped at the people she loved the most. I knew something had to drastically change. I confided in a mentor and she suggested a life coach she'd worked with. At this point, I had no idea life coaching was even a real job. I thought you went to therapy or you did it alone. As I did more research, coaching seemed like exactly what I needed. I hadn't experienced any major traumas and I didn't feel like digging into the past was what I needed. So I reached out to the recommendation and the rest is history. She slowly helped me go from barely surviving to thriving. I learned to thrive in my executive role and got promoted. I was on a rocket ship and the sky was the limit. I was so empowered that I realized being confined behind 4 walls of one organization just wasn't enough for me. I decided to get certified as a coach with the one and only Martha Beck and I started planning my future as a coach and entrepreneur. I built a website and scheduling tools and logos. I had a professional branding photo shoot done and on March 1st, 2019, I left my corporate job and followed my passion and help others unleash their full potential. Many people told me it was a brave decision. Normally I would agree. But when you are doing the thing that hasn't just nudged you, but hit you with a sledgehammer over and over, you just know you'll make it work.